You don't like my dogs...

[nesta21har]

:mad:
so last night me and my roomate had a bbq and had some peeps up that i work with and all that jazz... so anyways this one dude that i really didn't know too well came over and he was totally terrified of my dogs, and i just said ya know they won't bother you they are just barking cause they don't know you and yada yada yada... then the little party started to move into the house and i though this guy was a little shady and flaky from the get go... he goes " can you lock your dogs up so i can come inside?", he had already sorta ticked me off and then for some reason that really heated me up and i sorta blew up i said " you don't like my dogs, then you don't like me, get the F*ck outta here" his jaw just dropped and that was that he was out like trout...
yah that's just random... but i'm bored at work...

[nesta21har]

do ya'll think i was wrong?

[SmoothCollieluver]

Not everyone likes dogs. I put mine away when company come.

[nesta21har]

yeah that's fine, but like i said i didn't even know the guy... and he was shady so he wasn't making him happy was not my priority..:eek:

[SmoothCollieluver]

O i agree anyone you want out of or not in your house is your business. I'm just saying in general when i have a party with people i know and know my dogs i put them away. It's just safer for everyone. No one gets tripped and no one feeds them, ect...

[DiggityDogs]

I generally put my dogs away too, but that was awfully rude of him to tell you to 'lock your dogs up so he could come inside'. He probably would have fared better if he'd asked you about them and made conversation instead of demands. That kind of thing makes me mad, too.

[d'tails]

If he was an invited guest and knew you had dogs...he should have let you know he was scared of dogs. If you did not know him, you should have asked him to leave if he made you uncomfortable. His request may have been rude, but you were rude right back. I think you could have handled it better. JMO.
My house, my dogs. It is different for everyone and every situation. I would put my dogs away as other people don't always watch for someone else's pets. For my peace of mind and dog's safety, I would put them away.
I believe it is the host/hostess's job to make their guests comfortable. Within reason. Guests should know you have animals, especially for your protection. Fewer surprises that way.
Sorry if this is not what you were looking for.

[ClarkFarm]

Just my two cents...

I think you handled the situation wrong. Whether or not you knew the man well, he was a guest and you said your dogs were barking at him. Perhaps he has a valid fear of dogs and was too embarassed to say so and his asking you to lock them away wasn't meant to be taken as insulting, which is my guess because of his shocked reaction to your retaliation.

Dogs should be crated if they are misbehaving or at a guest's request. If you don't like to crate your dogs, then you write off that particular guest for next time.

I think before I would have gotten upset, I would have asked him what it was that bothered him about the dogs in particular. Now he may categorize all dog owners as being rude and his fears will only grow. Someday he may be one of the people signing that BSL paper... you just never know.
If it were me, I would send an apology note, just short and simple.

[BelovedJuggernaut]

I have to agree with ClarkFarm on this one...

You have a roommate, and thus have to respect the fact that maybe not all of their guests want to be around dogs. I have BBQs all the time, and even some of my friends don't like dogs, so I lock them up when company comes over to avoid any mishaps.

I think that errupting at your roommates houseguest was disrespectful to him and your roommate. I would really appologize to both, and maybe consider putting the dogs away when company comes and you don't know them.

[reeskujo]

I agree as well,if someone tells me their afraid of dogs I put Kujo up as well.Some dogs will sense that fear and agressively to the person who's afraid of them.It's better to be safe then sorry!

[Rottweilerlvr]

I agree as well,if someone tells me their afraid of dogs I put Kujo up as well.Some dogs will sense that fear and agressively to the person who's afraid of them.It's better to be safe then sorry!

I don't invite people over if they are afraid of big dogs or rottweiler/mastiffs in general. This is my home, I'm the one making payments, and I refuse to "hide" them in my home because someone is afraid. I already have to deal with it in public when some ignorant idiot thinks all rottweilers are bad. Sorry, I REFUSE to bring that into my home. They are afraid, they don't come in.

[reeskujo]

I don't invite people over if they are afraid of big dogs or rottweiler/mastiffs in general. This is my home, I'm the one making payments, and I refuse to "hide" them in my home because someone is afraid. I already have to deal with it in public when some ignorant idiot thinks all rottweilers are bad. Sorry, I REFUSE to bring that into my home. They are afraid, they don't come in.I'm sorry,I should have made myself more clear.I don't have any friends that are afraid of my dog.I was really referring to people such as cable or maintence men/women.I alway's tell them I have a big dog and if they need to do work in my home and are afraid of dogs I will Put Kujo in my room.I do totaly understand your point,however if I had a family member or very close friend that was afraid of dogs I would put him in my room.

[Rottweilerlvr]

Luckily, my friends and family like my dogs so it works out.

[reeskujo]

Mine all do to and Kujo loves them back so I never have a problem with that.He's a true lover,but for a family member or friend I would put him up if they were scared but as far as non-close friends I think I'd have the same feelings you do.I to deal with the breed discrimination like you do because there so called agressive so I know where your coming from.When will people realize it's the owners,the training and the socialization.NOT THE BREED.I have to Pits upstairs from me and their the sweetest,friendliest dogs.In fact their even afraid of my Akita.Imagine that....LOL

[BelovedJuggernaut]

I don't invite people over if they are afraid of big dogs or rottweiler/mastiffs in general. This is my home, I'm the one making payments, and I refuse to "hide" them in my home because someone is afraid. I already have to deal with it in public when some ignorant idiot thinks all rottweilers are bad. Sorry, I REFUSE to bring that into my home. They are afraid, they don't come in.


That is the beauty of having your own home!

In this case, they share a home with others, which changes the rules of gameplay I guess.

I generally don't have friends who are afraid of dogs, but my husbands mother is scared to death of large dogs... so I put mine away when they come over to avoid any mishaps. I wish I didn't have to, but when it comes to close friends/family, I feel I must.

[TxDog]

I would not put my dogs away for anyone but at the same time they don't jump or bark at all at guests regardless if they know them or not. Shiner never has and I trained Dakota fast not too.

[GSP4619]

My dad does not agree with the way Ava sits on the couch. So when he comes to my house he knows that it's my rules LOL. I can see him looking at Ava and he is just burning up inside wanting to tell me she does not belong on the couch. So after some time my lil brother told me how my dad reacted after he leaves my house and he is in the car hahahahahaha. I laughed so hard because I knew it would annoy him. But I say it's my house my rules. Take me & Ava as we are.

But I will not let Ava over crowd people when they are over if they are not real fond of dogs. I am lucky though she just hangs back and stays with me LOL.

[ClarkFarm]

It may indeed be your home but when you allow someone inside, then you are morally responsible for that person's comfort during their stay, not to mention certain legal obligations to their safety as well.
There is a big difference between well behaved dogs and those who are being a bother.

In the situation between roommates, communication is vital but I don't think cursing and hollering is beneficial at all and only serves to make you seem the ignorant one.

[Rottweilerlvr]

It may indeed be your home but when you allow someone inside, then you are morally responsible for that person's comfort during their stay, not to mention certain legal obligations to their safety as well.
There is a big difference between well behaved dogs and those who are being a bother.

For sure, but I find it is also a great way to be educational. I have had friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, maintence workers, etc etc come over to do whatever it is, and I find it beneficial for them to see how well-behaved dogs are... Particularly for rottweilers. Isabella will sit and automatically raise her paw to shake as her initial greeting, Baxter will come over and stand quietly next to you. It's also a added bonus because it's more socialization in house and you can never have enough socialization in a dog.

I do agree, the OP handled the sitituation wrong, and her dog was barking and putting up a fuss, while annoying is not something I would be "scared" about... I would be scared of the dog that looks me dead in the eye and doesn't say a "word". I've had a roommate before, I never will again, to much drama.

[nesta21har]

still i don't think i handled the situation wrong, the guy was bad juju... and with the drugs that he was on or whatever was wrong with him i don't need that reputation, or my job on the line... :confused:

[BelovedJuggernaut]

still i don't think i handled the situation wrong, the guy was bad juju... and with the drugs that he was on or whatever was wrong with him i don't need that reputation, or my job on the line... :confused:


Regardless what this guy was "on" or is, he was a guest in the home. Some of the installation guys that come by our house don't seem like the nicest guys, but they are considered a guest in our home when work is being done, so we put the dogs aside. Passing judgement, or worse, letting your DOG pass judgement on someone is not the best thing to do....

I think the situation was not only handled wrong, but you may need to have a talk with your roommate about how you feel about certain people being in the home. It is not your house, so you can't control who comes and goes, again going back to the respect issue.

Hopefully your roommate and yourself can work something out so this situation does not come up again.

[Rottweilerlvr]

still i don't think i handled the situation wrong, the guy was bad juju... and with the drugs that he was on or whatever was wrong with him i don't need that reputation, or my job on the line... :confused:

Does your roommate have dogs? Does he/she like YOUR dogs?

[SmoothCollieluver]

It just seems to me that you are trying to convince us all that something was going on now that we don't agree with you. I hear you. I don't like people for no reason all the time. but that is no excuse to be rude to them. There are a couple of my husbands friends i could live with out but I still slap a smile on my face. It's life.

[Tori's mom]

My home is my sanctuary. I only ever invite friends who like dogs and are not afraid of large dogs over. If I want to socialize with people who I do not know well, or whom I know are not comfortable with dogs, we meet in a public place or at their home. It works for us.
That said if I would end up in a situation where an invited guest (maintence person, etc) was not comfortable with my pets, my pets would have to be safely confined. Yelling obsenities is never acceptable and in this situation I would have to agree that you may have worsened a prexisting fear, or created another BSL proponent. When we have dogs, particularly large powerful breeds, we take responsibility for the safety of the people around our pets as well as our pets. It is our job to ensure that we do not further the histeria that already surrounds so many breeds. Owning a dog is more responsibility than just providing shelter, food, and water. Much more!

[nesta21har]

rott- my roomate does not have her own dogs, but she considers mine to be hers and loves them dearly... and she has said numerous times that she feels safe having the dogs around...

smooth- that's fine that you think i am making stuff up... but considering i live in the meth capital of the country just about, chances are he just wasn't acting quirky... but that's cool, now i'm a con artist... thanks!!! :p

[nesta21har]

i dunno i guess next time i will just bite the bullet and keep my thoughts to myself... and just let whatever go on even if i don't condone it and what not...:confused:

[SmoothCollieluver]

i dunno i guess next time i will just bite the bullet and keep my thoughts to myself... and just let whatever go on even if i don't condone it and what not...:confused:

You are acting very childish. Much as you did in this situation. There is nothing wrong with not approving of a house guest. You just don't seem to understand that how you approached the topic was wrong. If you really thought this guy was on drugs then why didn't you ask him to leave eariler reguardless of how he feels about your dogs. Please discuss future party guests in advance.

[ClarkFarm]

You asked the users if they agreed/disagreed with you and you got responses of both. Criticism is not always easy to hear even when we ask others for their opinion. Don't be offended if you feel differently than someone else and don't be afraid to speak up again. We all learn from each other here. :)

[nesta21har]

You asked the users if they agreed/disagreed with you and you got responses of both. Criticism is not always easy to hear even when we ask others for their opinion. Don't be offended if you feel differently than someone else and don't be afraid to speak up again. We all learn from each other here.


no worries clark farm... i'm not disgruntled... i got what i wanted and that's all that i asked for... ;)

[ClarkFarm]

Ok, just making sure. I didn't want you to be offended and not continue to post here. I like this forum and I think its great to "get to know" everyone on here.